Leaving an abusive relationship is one of the most difficult and dangerous decisions a person can make. It takes immense courage and it’s vital that you do it safely, with the right legal and emotional support in place.
At Maria Fogg Family Law, we work closely with clients who are escaping abusive partners. Our role is to ensure you have protection, stability, and access to justice. You are not alone, and help is available every step of the way.
Understanding the Risks
Abusive relationships are about power and control. When an abuser senses that power slipping away for example, when their partner plans to leave their behaviour can escalate. That’s why safety planning is essential. Leaving quickly or without preparation can increase your risk, so it’s important to reach out for advice and support before taking action.
Making a Safety Plan
A safety plan helps you think through the practical and emotional steps you’ll need to take to protect yourself and any children. Consider:
- Where you can go if you need to leave urgently — such as a friend’s home or a refuge.
- Who you can contact for immediate help (police, domestic abuse helplines, your solicitor).
- Important documents and essentials to keep safe or ready to take — ID, bank cards, birth certificates, medication, and mobile phone.
- Safe communication – avoid sharing your plans on shared devices or accounts that your partner could access.
Domestic abuse organisations such as Refuge, Women’s Aid, and the National Domestic Abuse Helpline (0808 2000 247) can help you build a personalised safety plan.
Legal Protection
Once you’ve made the decision to leave, there are several legal measures available to help you stay safe:
Non-Molestation Order:
This prevents your abuser from threatening, harassing, or contacting you. Breaching the order is a criminal offence.
Learn more about Ex-Parte Non-Molestation orders Here.
Occupation Order:
This can remove the abuser from the family home and prevent their return, even if the property is jointly owned or rented.
Learn more about occupation orders here.
Police protection:
The police can issue a Domestic Violence Protection Notice (DVPN) or Order (DVPO) to provide immediate, short-term safety.
Legal Support
Our team at Maria Fogg Family Law can help you apply for these orders urgently, often on the same day, and can liaise with the police or courts to ensure your protection.
Protecting Children
If you have children, the court’s priority will be their safety and welfare. In most cases involving domestic abuse, the court will take steps to protect children from being exposed to further harm. We can help you apply for child arrangements or prohibited steps orders to prevent an abuser from removing or contacting your child without consent.
Emotional and Practical Support
Leaving abuse is not just a legal process — it’s an emotional journey. You may feel scared, guilty, or unsure of what the future holds. Reaching out for emotional support can help you heal and rebuild confidence. Charities and counselling services offer confidential, understanding help tailored to survivors of abuse.
Support Beyond the Courtroom
At Maria Fogg Family Law, we work with local and national organisations to ensure you’re supported beyond the courtroom — from housing advice and financial guidance to counselling and safeguarding services.
View our domestic abuse support services here.
You Deserve Safety and Peace
No one should live in fear. Whether you’re ready to leave or simply exploring your options, remember that support is available. Every small step you take towards safety is a step towards freedom.
If you’re in immediate danger, call 999. For confidential legal advice or to discuss protective orders, contact Maria Fogg Family Law. Our compassionate team will help you create a safe, secure future for you and your family.
